how do i defeat my father whos abusive?
i am scared. im 25 years old and female and im a sensitive person. anyway i was working hard to achieve my goals. im a good student and worked hard so that i can make money. i was in a bad accident and almost died. even after the accident i feared for my life because i suffere debilitating, life threatening health problems now.
my health is very bad i found out i have heart problems.
i have severe agonizing pain 24 hours a day every day, i feel at times like a truck is hitting me, i scream from pain at times..i cry alot because i cant walk well my mobility is bad
anyways since i got hurt my father has been after me. i came home from the hospital to recover so i can get back on my feet and go to school again
instead my father is after me every day, screaming at me, harrasing me, threatening me, calling the cops on me and making up lies on me, he constantly goes to court against me
he took out 6 court papers against me
nno one will teach him his lesson. he bullies me and screams and curses at me and puts me down,. he makes fun of me that i cant walk well. i needed a walker much of the time
he threatens me if i dont walk fast.
he tries to stop me from eating food. i am a thin girl with a malnutrition problem. he dosnt let anyone send me food and then yells the only way for me to get food is to walk to the store when i cannot walk. he does it to play games. he knows i cant walk down a street. there are many delivery services but he wont let them send me food
not even a resturant or food store
he dosnt allow me to have vitamins or medicine sent
he even tried to stop em from seeing the doctor
one time he beat me up because he didnt want me to go to a doctor
i wam weekened by all this
i am scared out of my wits
im terrified if he keeps screaming at me ill have a heart attack or die in my bed when i sleep.
am i right? i mean i do have heart problems
i am alone, no one cares. the rest of my family tells me to roll with the punches
no one cares i have no friends
i am so weekened by this and scared and terrified
what kind of plan does he have for me
i want to try to get well and fix my health so that i can attend college and have a life other then using a walker and trying hard to bend to use toilets
it dosnt matter where my life is i just want A life where i am not sick or disabled. so i need to heal
im not going to run off to a homeless shelter and do what sit in a corner and live off charity organazations and 100 dollar a month food stamps the rest of my life
my father made it clear he wants no life for me, he will not allow me to marry, he wont allow me to attend college again or get a job
and right now job and college are not for me because i cant walk well and im wobbling and injured
i am in too much pain to move sometimes
my priority right now is to fix my health
my father is a 65 year old narcisist hes morbidly obese but he runs fast and has angry outburts and a temper he demands constant attention
if you dont give him attention he gets worse angry
he reflects onto other people and does to others what he wants for himself
for example he tries to starve me even tho im thin because hes overweight but he wont diet.. he weighs 350 pounds around there
he thinks if i dont eat food he will get thin
he is delusional and strange and needs to control others
he gets angry but hasnt hit me in a year
he controls me and threatens to lock me away
he wont let me do anything, he used to yell at my friends, he spies on me and invades my privacy, opens my mail, talks to people when the phone call is for me
he minds my business
my parents dont help me out in life, he wont give me money for clothing i need.
they do nothing for me
except free rent but they are rich anyways and they own the house so they dont need money
he torments me every day demanding attention from me constantly
he says he heard voices in his head telling him to do things to me, not murder or anything but the control thing
i dont know how ill eat
he fights with me over food… if i want a meal he fights to try to get me not to eat..
* 36 minutes ago
* – 4 days left to answer.
Additional Details
im too old for foster care
and no i cant beat him up, hes tough
hes like 6 feet tall and 350 pounds
im 54 female i cant walk well and i weight like 130
Megan
November 27th, 2009 at 12:10 am
Thomas
report him as soon as you can.
November 29th, 2009 at 6:24 am
Bryan
You need to tell the cops and your doctor. Your situation is dire. You need to get better but that’s not gonna happen with him beating up on you all the time. There is really nothing you can do but get the authorities involved because you need to get out of this abusive situation. Is there really no one else you can stay with at all? I’m so sorry that you have been dealt all these problems and on top of it you have a jerk for a dad. Just be strong and don’t put up with it anymore. The cops have to protect you.
December 2nd, 2009 at 2:25 am
Autumn
this sounds serious … i have not read it but from the little i read you should do somthing … confront him with others and get and advisor… this needs to be done in a big way! i hope this gets better.. you can doit.
December 5th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
Tristan
This is a scary situation. Do you have a camera or video recorder? set it up and hide it or get like a nanny cam and video tape his actions and as soon as he hits you call the cops and there is your proof. and im sorry to say but what kind of mother and family members actually see this and say roll w/ the punches….i wish you the best of luck
December 6th, 2009 at 2:25 pm
Ethan
Sounds like there’s a whole lot to this story than you’re telling. By judging from your writing it’s hard to tell whose the mentally unstable person. . . you or your dad. If life is really so bad, at the age of 25, you would find a place to go and get help.
December 9th, 2009 at 6:02 am
Liam
Call the Police now!! Call 911!! Call anybody!! This guy is a complete ass and they’ll take care of him like he deserves.
December 11th, 2009 at 5:55 am
Kyle
Call the police when he is not around. Call a teacher, anyone. A neighboor. They can get you to a safe place. Then move far away, you are 24 they can’t control you anymore. Just get to a safe place.