School Bullies! Would You Know if Your Child is Being Bullied?
Sheila Sudlow Of Cheeky Chums asked:
Is your child developing strange behavioural problems.A few tell tale signs can suggest that your child is being bullied. Here are a few to question and deal with them before it becomes a very bad situation to handle.Talking to your child often and building up strong family relationships can mean a child can tell you they are being bullied and you can intervene before its too late. Not all children tell their parents though. you can later explore further just in case another problem is the cause of a child’s unusual behaviour.
1.If your child has a quiet and shy personality bullying can often go a miss. A child who does not feel they can approach a parent will often not tell you there is a problem, or if they keep coming in from playing outside telling you “mum they keep hitting me” you can sometimes be so busy and sick of them coming in every 10 minutes or so that you “say oh go on and play”, sometimes you want them to fend for them selves and stick up for themselves but bullies often pray on children who don’t fight back. so when bulling has become a very serious issue your child will feel they are unable to approach you with any serious problem at all.A child can become withdrawn and not want to play outside after school with their friends.
2.Stealing a child may result in stealing/shop lifting and hiding things from you and then giving them away to try make new friends, it often has the bullies then stealing from their lunch boxes, pocket money etc because they are known as a soft touch, and the child who is bullied will feel they will leave me alone if i give into them. which is often not the case.The other children could still not want to make friends with your child and may even cause more children to bully your child.. look out for hidden toys, pens, chocolate bars, money hidden under the pillow or bed which you know you havent given them pocket money for.
3. Loneliness and not eager to join in with other children, its a good idea to get your child involved with as many out of school activities as possble, it can aleviate the problem of socializing with children of the same age and is a good way for your child to mix with adults too.When your child attends these regular and is happy with lots of friends and suddenly doesnt want to join in it can often mean bullying is taking place wether at school or even at the activity class.
4.Your child can bully a younger member of the family in retaliation against the bullies. Because the younger child is smaller and younger he/she may not be able to hold your son or daughter off if fighting occurs. Your older child will feel poweful and in control where usually the bullies strip this from him/her when bulling happens frequently to your child.
5.Bedwetting, soling of pants, another tell tale sign that something is wrong.(please note)Children can go through a bedwetting stage around 7so if it is bullying other signs have started to develop such as nightmares, fear of the bullies when you go down the street, thay may make excuses to go another way round to avoid them.
we hope you never have to come across your child dealing with bulling the worse case was at age 11 one child out of a class of 30….26 children all against one student at school .The problems got worse until age 13 when the child got into a fight after having enough of bullying and ended up with detention plus striped of prefect duty in the last year at school.
Please note The above information is just a guide please look at all possiblities before rushing in at the deep end and shouting at the teachers, it could turn out that your child is the major bully after all.Take care why not visit our online store for more articles amd free advice for the under 5′s. at www.cheekychumsonline.co.uk
RAYMOND
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Is your child developing strange behavioural problems.A few tell tale signs can suggest that your child is being bullied. Here are a few to question and deal with them before it becomes a very bad situation to handle.Talking to your child often and building up strong family relationships can mean a child can tell you they are being bullied and you can intervene before its too late. Not all children tell their parents though. you can later explore further just in case another problem is the cause of a child’s unusual behaviour.
1.If your child has a quiet and shy personality bullying can often go a miss. A child who does not feel they can approach a parent will often not tell you there is a problem, or if they keep coming in from playing outside telling you “mum they keep hitting me” you can sometimes be so busy and sick of them coming in every 10 minutes or so that you “say oh go on and play”, sometimes you want them to fend for them selves and stick up for themselves but bullies often pray on children who don’t fight back. so when bulling has become a very serious issue your child will feel they are unable to approach you with any serious problem at all.A child can become withdrawn and not want to play outside after school with their friends.
2.Stealing a child may result in stealing/shop lifting and hiding things from you and then giving them away to try make new friends, it often has the bullies then stealing from their lunch boxes, pocket money etc because they are known as a soft touch, and the child who is bullied will feel they will leave me alone if i give into them. which is often not the case.The other children could still not want to make friends with your child and may even cause more children to bully your child.. look out for hidden toys, pens, chocolate bars, money hidden under the pillow or bed which you know you havent given them pocket money for.
3. Loneliness and not eager to join in with other children, its a good idea to get your child involved with as many out of school activities as possble, it can aleviate the problem of socializing with children of the same age and is a good way for your child to mix with adults too.When your child attends these regular and is happy with lots of friends and suddenly doesnt want to join in it can often mean bullying is taking place wether at school or even at the activity class.
4.Your child can bully a younger member of the family in retaliation against the bullies. Because the younger child is smaller and younger he/she may not be able to hold your son or daughter off if fighting occurs. Your older child will feel poweful and in control where usually the bullies strip this from him/her when bulling happens frequently to your child.
5.Bedwetting, soling of pants, another tell tale sign that something is wrong.(please note)Children can go through a bedwetting stage around 7so if it is bullying other signs have started to develop such as nightmares, fear of the bullies when you go down the street, thay may make excuses to go another way round to avoid them.
we hope you never have to come across your child dealing with bulling the worse case was at age 11 one child out of a class of 30….26 children all against one student at school .The problems got worse until age 13 when the child got into a fight after having enough of bullying and ended up with detention plus striped of prefect duty in the last year at school.
Please note The above information is just a guide please look at all possiblities before rushing in at the deep end and shouting at the teachers, it could turn out that your child is the major bully after all.Take care why not visit our online store for more articles amd free advice for the under 5′s. at www.cheekychumsonline.co.uk
RAYMOND