No Bullies Here

Kate asked:


i’m not the type of person to let kids get bullied.
this girl in my english class who has been getting hassled by this boy everyday just b/c of how she is. some people might consider her annoying sometimes, but that’s no cause for him to be saying anything to her. he gets his confidence from the small group of people that laugh with him. i could tell that it was affecting that girl. i told him to knock it off and to shut up. i’m older than him, and the only junior in a class full of sophomores, so i can tell he was a little afraid of saying something back to me b/c i said something to him before and he had the similar stunned reaction.(i have stern, serious tones from being the editor on my school newspaper. lol) he said the i can say what i want kinda thing.
but anyway, this boy has now turned on me, which i figured would happen. he was saying stuff behind my back today, so i told him if he said something to say, to say it to my face and to stop being a coward and a wimp.
i just don’t know how to deal with him tomorrow. it’s affecting me and makes me mad, b/c i’m pretty sure he and his goons are making fun of my underbite. something i’m sensitive about. if he says something about that what should i say back? and what should i do about him tomorrow?

p.s. ignoring will not work, i know that from experience. and he’s a white trash boy so there’s no reasoning with him.

my teacher wasn’t there the day i yelled at him, b/c that’s the only way he could get away with making fun of that girl. she was here today and will be at school tomorrow.

and sorry this is so long!

Bryan

6 Responses to “what’s the best way to deal with a bully at school?”

1. Jasmine Says:
   January 25th, 2010 at 7:31 pm

   Charles

   joke back with him, he’ll run out of things to make fun of you for if you make fun of yourself first, but if it’s just some silly white trash boy, who cares?!! it’s not like he matters or anything.

   Edit: oops sorry I didn’t know it was about someone else, just tell the girl to do what I said, but he will get over it eventually. But I think you did the right thing anyways, plus younger kids tend to be less mature then the older ones, so he is just at the stage where he feels like he needs to pick on people still.

   but seriously, if you beat him to the punch he wont have anything left to say

2. Ashley Says:
   January 28th, 2010 at 4:27 pm

   Noah

   i had the same problem at school a while ago.I just talked trash back to him and had a long fight and then he ran outta things to say and he stopped.

   P.S. srry if it didn’t't help it dosen’t work with all bullies

3. Angel Says:
   January 29th, 2010 at 2:18 pm

   Jessica

   Bullying is not to be tolerated.
   Get all the teachers, the guidance counselors and the principal involved. They should get the parents involved if need be.

   It was nice that you stood up to that boy. I hope things work out. If not, use the above advice.

4. Allison Says:
   February 1st, 2010 at 10:46 am

   Julia

   I used to tell verbal bullies, I can’t be that bad b/c your the one who’s focussing all of your time on me. What kind of life do you have that you have to lay awake at night dream up things to say to me? How pathetic is your life that you have to focus all of your thoughts on me. It’s kinda’ weird that all you can think about is me. It looks like you have lots of friends but you don’t even care to think about them. It’s just me. Why are you so obsessed w/ me? If he replies about your under-bite, be prepared to not show signs of feelings. Laugh it off as if he’s pathetic just tell him, See what I mean. All you can think about is me. Are you just attracted to older guys or what? Keep laughing. no matter what he says to you keep refering to his obsession w/ you things like, Didn’t you see the movie DUDE HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU?

   It takes a few consistent goes at it. Different days, but always refer to his attraction to you. Maybe even give a few warning to his mates by telling them, You better be careful hanging around this guy. When he gets over his crush for me he may start going after one of you. Even though he’s saying cruel remarks just keep reminding him that he wouldn’t be talking to you at all if there wasn’t some reason why he just can’t get his mind off of you.

   You know that bullies do this out of a sense of insecurity somewhere inside of them so he’ll eventually need to pull back.

   Then also mention discreetly to the teacher to how you notice the bully’s affect on the girl to please try not to leave the room during their classes together.

   Hope all goes well soon.

5. Mariah Says:
   February 3rd, 2010 at 6:38 am

   Caden

   Ignore her, she’s ignorant. She obviously sees something in you that shes jealous of, and if she brings you down, no one will ever notice that quality missing in her.

   If you fight back, it’ll get worse, if you ignore her, it’ll stop eventually. I was bullied in school, and would just ignore the guy who did it. It eventually made him so mad, he just walked away and never came near me again.

   Then, 25 years later, at a class reunion he came up to me an introduced himself. I told him to keep walking and he did.

6. Evelyn Says:
   February 4th, 2010 at 3:48 pm

   Paige

   just tell a nasty rumor about him